PAGE 84, THE HERALD, Wednesday. October 2, 1974 -

“DR. LAWRENCE. E. LAMB

= , By Lawrence E. Lamb. M.D.

DEAR DR. LAMB — Lama
- 43-year-uld woman and was
married to-a good man for
over .20° years. am
homosexual. specifically. 1
have fallen in Jove. with
women. many times, all wore?
itéed.-My ‘capacity te love

i : ; : Went la psy
' . il * almost13) years
upport “of my

“for inet hus :
“father died, whens] wak
remirried tu

sho spent much

In tind out

are ae he
hezalihy,
mily! Hite At

fe,
Sm. never tae
inane: Rayman Ieader

Pp em tional “probleins,: being .
foo) proud? |, of
: he

He
ve.

Tlie meeting W
: v the icl

: Wwonien ‘decided to “treat me
os "And. they did. The men

. “deeided.to “prince

i “ome which was humiliating:

A‘ few. phoned: me 46 chat,

Irnited lo brotherly

recall uneducated: in:

) part of the normal euliure, In

; ase Church against
| “~~ her sex life

Some satan the organ bench
with me (I am a musician).
They wenl out of their way to
open doors. They stood about

s¢.

ments in. my marriage .and
‘olher arguments‘ with rela-
tives. P stupidly believed the
-Mormons wouid correct their

J Speak ol, f .
; 8 , . + false attempt to “help.” The
bo ‘ i ene, “tune ‘leaders ‘never realized ‘that

: he corrected by frivolous and
humiliating. minute” encaun-
ters. They never realized
they were in error in assum-
ing my. former husband was
“faulty in-his “technique.” H
never oceurred to them there
“might be some good ia my re-
latiouship with this mather ly
woman.

‘No one helps. No one will

il question “the whole church

Uy ‘Yanizal ione They erass it off
as imagination ay something.

Exorcist” and have. ried tu
“talk af this with a-local Cath-
tlie priest: Bul none’ af them
can. accept homosexuality

torment ‘oul. to desiray ame f

‘
would. simply be the =

homosexual. E-have -alwavs
been. without the lor ment.

- Pwork three day

“doing hase cleaning: Phave.

acsimple. vel

‘friends but (heysare ‘litle’

people, with no power ar guls-
J guts

affairs is accurate and your

“Interpretation of your. own’

ty help me: attaek the: Mor-
/ mon churell organization,

» Pledses Dre Lamb, Vread |
“your book. "Dear Deetor, It's.
About Sex." whieh stated

hanioseswality: is: net caused

blasted “Marnion. under: the.
“sin would listen to that, fart
was accused of mastur' baling.

(isa Gaus’: of my homasex-

~ualily” Please help so that-1
“mas be free ef this: vicious

best Mean with-what | have.

’. DEAR READER —: As 1
have said many limes before
invthis column, homosexual
feelings or ‘acts-are only
symptoms. They may be a

normal funtusy or even in
some cultures af the world.

trying ta look devastatingly :

This caused great argue

_ deep emotianal needs cannot ~

- direct
‘have learned to accept 3 yours

- LC have read the. book, “The -

- pretation. of your symptoms
either, Without this religious /

+ a week -

aICraclive. |
apartment. Have a few loyal -

by. masturbation, Lwishevery -

other -
symptoms may be an indica-
tian of a need for love and af-
fection.” In. still ;ather: ins-
tances the symptoms may. be

related to psychological fac- .

tors :in’early childhood, or

even a form of conditioning.
We must always keep in

mind thal people: both male

‘and female, are ca able of a
sextal

wide range’
responses and behavior. The
culture and (he training dic-
tates “what is normal and

’ what is not for that particular

culture.

It is obvious from your let-
ter that vou have had a [at of
major psychological prob-
lems. And, | am glad that‘yeu

avere enlightened enough to
det: professional support. No.

doubt this has helped: vou to

adjust better to life and prob-_

ahly. made it possible tor you
to wrile such an apen, and
letter. At feast you

seli
I wonlel not want. to iry ‘tu’
interpred {he meaning. of your
symptoms and. struggles.
“Unrequited: lave":

meus that your. pwn inier-

would need to be examined

carefully. as I ane sure P they
have bi .

Your marriage toa, good e
husband. whe obviously -su

Oe ne

ported you during your difti-
cult years, and two children’ -
atts! tu your

family life. — ,
Assuming . your report: of

emotional taelings ar reac-
tians is reasonably on largel. -
you are correct in-accepling

yaur veal friends will also ac-
cept you wifhoul demanding
that vou change or be some-

. thing that you can't be.

I can't do much about -the
Mormon or.any other church

- concepts. However, you must
and. evil: torment From he

ae “church and live my fife the

realize any of the reactions
you describe have been by.

" people Irving to ‘help | you.

instances. the “same

“means toe
me no action, which in, turn

capacity to”
‘have exper ‘ienced the. nor mal-

‘and fullness.

_Yourselt'as youare. Hopefully

“(smock )

No.

Sometimes people -and.

organizations are misguided

in tryi ‘ing to hel pin some mat: —
ters in an-in ividual’s per:

sonal life. Your case is ob-
viously: 2 complicated one

«and you needed good: pr ofe: <

sional help.”

Sota ie

‘Leo: Chevalier’s dress

collection, for Brodkin, is
characterized-by softness
He com-
bines cut-out ultra-suedes
_with Jaquard satin back
‘ crepé for a new fashion
dimension. At left, his
smock dress is yoked and
beltedinsuede. At right,
his midriff dress if bias
flared. — Style No. 78
Approx,
Canadian retail price:

$165, Approx. American.

“retail price: $230. ' Style
77 ‘(midriff , dress)

Approx. : Canadian’ retail ©

price: $165 Approx.

American, retail price: :

$230...

Take Leo |

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Tickets for the securid

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