Page 14, The Herald, Friday, October 6, 1978

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| Bride’s Mom Opens
The Wedding Gifts

By Abigail Van Buren

© 1078 by Chicago Tribune M ¥. News Sind. Inc.

DEAR ABBY: From the moment we announced our wed-
ding plans, my mather kept harping, “DON'T open your gifts
at the reception—il's so boring to the gueste!’

After four manths of hearing this, we decided to go along
with her—just to keep her quict. ;

We went ona brief honeymoon and returned to find thal
mother had opened all our gifts! ; ;

She justified it by saying that many friends and relatives
had stopped by wanting to see what we had received.

Naturally, we were furious. But to top it off, after I sent
off all the handwritten “thank-you” notes, I heard fram
several people who said, “Your ‘thank you’ was lovely, but it
was not the gift we sent you.”

Obviously, Mather got the cards all mixed up.

Do I have the right to feel angry and cheated?

UNFORGIVING IN OHIO

DEAR UNFORGIVING: You have. But please don't be
“unforgiving” forever. Mothers sametimes need to be
forgiven, too.

DEAR ABBY: Our 14-year-old honor student son (I'll cal}

him Bud) has just informed us that he doesn’t want to accept
the four-year scholarship offered him by a fine Eastern
college. His reason is his 13-year-old girlfriend. He
doesn't want to leave her!

Rud was a bright and sengible boy until he started going
with this overdeveloped, aggressive little sexpot. You
should see her, Abby. She could easily pass for 21.

The girl's parents don't seem to object, from the way they
let Bud slay at her house at al} hours of the night. In fact,
they appear to encourage this relationship.

My husband and J are worried sick. Our son's entire
future seems threatened. Should we talk to the girl's
parents? | don’t think they realize what a dangerous situa-
tion they cauld be pushing their daughter into,

; CONCERNED IN IOWA CITY

DEAR CONCERNED; Don't expect the girl'a parents to
avaume the entire responsibility, At 18, your eon should
know all the facta of lite and a few about the law. (The girl la
a minor. He is not.}

Bud may be academically bright, but he's eoclally im-
mature. I urge you and your husband to communicate your
love, understanding and concera to Bud. You can’t fores him
to leave her, but you might rest more easily if you have ao
open and honest dialogue with him.

DEAR ABBY: A friend says I'm crazy, but ] want to know
what you think.

Five years ago, my husband and J] became very close
(ciends with another couple ['ll call Ed and Mary. Two years
later 1 found out that Mary was having an alfair with my
husband, and as a result our friendship broke up. The situa-
tion was heartbreaking for all concerned. .

Mary has since begged my forgiveness for having let this
happen. Our marriages are both stable now, and I believe I
can truly forgive her and my husband, too.

We've missed these friends, Abby, and all of us have
learned a lot from that terrible mess.

Do you think we ean resume a healthy friendship once

again?
FORGIVE AND FORGET IN IOWA

DEAR FORGIVE: If, as you say, your marriages are
stable now, there is no reason why you can't resume your
friendship. Your maturity and generosity are commendable.
God blena you.

Who said the teen years ate the happiest? For Abby's
pew booklet “What Teenagers Want to Know,” write
Abby: 132 Laaky Dr., Beverly Hills, Calif, $0212, Enclose
“ and along, stamped (28 cents), ecli-addresmed envelope,
please. -

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the AMAZING SPIDER-MAN

today be? To find out
what the stars say, read
the forecast given for
your birth sign.

ARIES
(Mar, 21 to Apr. 20) eS

Where long-+tange projects
are concerned, be con-
servatlve, A potential partner
who promises much may not
be in position to carry out his
or her promise.

TA : —
(Ape. 21 to May 21) Ota"

A good day for finalizing
agreements. Some unusual
background activity will
provide the spark that hurries
matters through more quickly
than you expect.

GEMINI ne
(May 22 to June 21)

You may have to take some
unusual steps to attain a
cherished goal but, for you,
that should prove highly in-
teresting. Romantic matters
are looking good.

AN °
(June 22 to July 23) ED

Don't take a thing for
granted, and do avoid jumping
to conclusions. What seems a
certainty could prove
otherwise, Onemore warning:
Don't try to force issues.

"ly 24 to Aug, 23) SOE

Moderation is the keyword
today. Don't try to do a dozen
things at once — no matter
how energetic you feel. Look
for a pleasant surprise in the
p.m.

VIRGO

(Aug, 24 to Sept 23) MPSS,
Avold a tendency toward

self-deception. See persons

and situations in a realistic

light. The Virgoan usually

Listen to others and take in
their Ideas, so your own
suggestions will come through
mare clearly.
AQUARIUS ¥
(Jan 21 to Feb. 19) aeGin
Avoid needless controversy,
but be firm in maintaining
your principles, Be careful not
to step out of line or go to
extremes in your actions. -
PISCES . 3°
(Feb. 20 to Mar. 20)

does, but even he or she can be You have more at work for
misled at times. you than you may think, Use
LIBRA nn xa your skills wisely and

(Sept, 24 to Oct. 23) ==
Good news should be the

forerunner of new advantages

for you in the future. If

traveling for business or
pleasure, the day should be a
great success.

SCORPIO
(Oct. 24 to Nov. 22) MA

This is an especially fine
day for conducting business
negotlations and concluding
financial transactions.
SAGITTARIUS vf,
(Novy. 23 to Dec. 21)

Gradually speed up your
business schedule, Gains are
indicated if you pursue

. unusual ideas and show

associates your usual cour-
tesy.
CAPRICORN

(Dec, 22 to Jan. an) VS ae

Check tendencies to be

carefully. Keep up with
trends, and with une:
changing situations,

YOU BORN TODAY are

’ endowed with great integrity,

exceptional poise and a most
wholesome outlook on life.
You also are a thinker, a
philosopher at heart, and a
person whose influence could
be profound in writing, lec
turing, and teaching. There
are many cther spheres in
which you could shine, in-
cluding music, singing,
dancing, as a fashion designer
or interior decorator; or as an
actor, playwright or producer
in the theater. Birthdate of :
Jenny Lind, Swed. singer;
George Westinghouse, Amer.
inventor.

©1978 King Features Syndicate, Inc.

Y UNTIL I. FIND THE
GIRL WHO KNOWS MY
TRUE IDENTITY, TLL
NEVER BE SAFE-- T'LL
NEVER BE FREE!

CATFISH

A PITY OUR HERO

400K BACK, AS WE CAN,
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