Page 2, The Herald, Monday, December 3, 1979

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Family Tree Is
Falsely Rooted

By Abigail Van Buren

=* 1979 by Chicago Tribuns-N.¥. News Synd. inc.

DEAR ABBY: I'm over 80, and have a diflicult decision to
make. About 55 years ago, my youngest brother (then 23)
married a pretty girl who said she was expecting his child.
At the time there was talk in town that she was ro-nantical-
ly involved with a married man—her employer.

Unfortunately, her child turned out to be the living image
of her employer! When the boy was 4, his parents divorced,
and the mother and son left town. To the day of my brother's
death (three years ago), he never mentioned her or his “son.”
My brother never married again.

Last year, a handsome, well-mannered man knocked on
our door and intraduced himself as my brother's son. He said
his mother had died recently, and he wanted to visit the
town of his birth and meet his “father's” family. He was full
of questions about his “father,” saying his mother refused ta
talk about him. He asked me why his parents had divorced.
(His biological father is also dead.)

My question: Should he be told? He has a lovely family
and lives 900 miles away. We have several cousins. who
know the story, but they say they'll never tell.

If he should be told, I think I should be the one to tell him
before I pass on. He'll prabably not visit this way after I'm
gone. What would you do, Abby?

INDIANA

DEAR INDIANA: I would leave well enough alone, and
say nothing. Fil probably hear an uproar irem many who
believe it’s everyone's “right” to know their real roots, but I
would not exhume this 55-year-old skeleton.

DEAR ABBY: Although I haven't spent much time in
school, I have worked hard to improve my English. In recent
years one of my best guidelines has been the Dear Abby
column. Therefore, I hope you will not be offended if [ ask
you ta quit using the word “Asiatic” when referring to the
continent of Asia, or its people. People of Asian descent con-
sider it not only incorrect, but insulting. It means “more
than a little insane, or some kind of nut.”

Those who have served in the U.S. Navy or Marine Corps

will confirm this. Please use “Asian” instead.
JOE‘E. INORLANDO

DEAR JOE: Thanks. [ learned something today.
Although my dictlonary states that “Asian” is preferred to
*Aciatic,” it gives no hint that the latter is insulting. The
put-down was inadvertently Occidental,

DEAR ABBY: Phil is 28 and I'm 22, We met at church
choir about a year ago and have been going together ever
since. He's asked me to marry him, but there is something
about him that bothers me. Please don't laugh; it's the way
-he'cheaps out'when ittcomes tomiandey: ot

He refuses to give a dime.to pny charity. (He-cails
them all “rip-offs.") He won't leave 4 tip unless the’ sérvice
was exceptional—which rarely happens. (I leave tips out of
embarrassment.)

Once when he took me out for dinner I said I wasn’t very

hungry, so he ordered a big meal for himself and told the .

waiter I didn't want anything, He ate in front of me and
didnt even offer me a cup of coifee! I felt so hurt I nearly
eried,

He’s always asking me to take my car and never offers to
pul in any gas, (I always pay for the parking, too.)

We both work, and he doesn't have anybody to support
but himself, so I can't understand why he’s so tight.

I know it’s the thought that counts, but every gift he’s
given me has been so cheap that I'm almost ashamed to
show it to anyhody.

Other than his tightness with money, we have a good
relationship.

How important is a person's attitude about money?

WONDERING

DEAR WONDERING: Very. Don't treat it lightly. A per-
gon who is stingy, uncharitable and generally tight with hia
money is usually inconsiderate, ungracious and uncharitable
in other areas. You are wine to wonder,

Your Individual

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be on time tomorrow morning.”

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