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solve, and that any rapid or spontaneous change is facile, superficial
and unreliable.

' A minority have given up all hope and accept the myth that change
is impossible, that they are stuck with the way they are, and that it’s
too late to make any differences that would feel better.

These are the kinds of myths that we learn and repeat to ourselves
often enough to render them believable and therefore powerfully

Patricia Helen immobilizing. Ironically, it’s easier to accept the challenge of learning ww wo BAe
how: to do.a new task than itis to unlearn old personal behaviour 4 ; 56 t 8
Humphrey, Walter, patterns that we have picked up over the years and tend to repeat even Bes © to
as we recognize that they don’t and won’t work. MIRACLE LANES -
MS.W. Ph.D. As an example, it was'much simpler (and more fun) for me to learn Sat., Sept. 8 & Sun., Sept 9
LRAT as how to replace some of our pumbing fixtures, then to unlearn my Phone: 656-2431 ; Noon - 2PM
cherished sulking mechanisms! Of course, I’d never thought of trying ™ _— — —
Labor Day has for me always held the special excitement of a new to change My Sulk as a matter of self management and re-education.
beginning, the taste of change and possibilities. As a child: | looked Before. any. change can be set in motion, there are some essential
forward to feeling more grown-up ina higher school grade. Most of conditions that we must create for ourselves: :
all I relished the experience of clean unused books, another op- eldentify the problem. Sounds. simple, but many people who are
portunity to make my mark more perfectly, to be the absolutely genuinely suffering or who are vigorously unhappy, haven’t figures
splendid pupil I intuitively knew I could be! The enormity of the out what they want to make different.
changes that I’d have to make to accomplish this did not daunt me. eAccept the possibility that something can be done by us about that
(At least notin September!) >» problem.
; I still feel that sense of anew beginning around Labor Day, around eCultivate a clear, strong desire to make a change in that problem.
birthday time, and-ever around New Year’s, but in my mid-life ~ eUnderstand that it is imperative to make an effort and to work on
wisdom I now realize that I’m really going nowhere unless | have.» changing, often to work very energetically and diligently. (If it were
“some principles upon which to:try to cake these marvellous changes’ > easier, we'd all have changed years ago!)
occur. Like any other form: of learning and growing, psychological pa
~All of us have an inending: limitless. capacity to make differences. problems solving necessitates that we don’t just talk about changing.
-in-our lives, to. formulate ideas and decisions that have a profound We have to actively do something to alter our behaviour.
~ influence on our own well-being. eFigure out how we would like to act instead.
In my-own life I’ve believed this: less ahen I was in situations that -efdentify small steps 1o get from where we are now to where we'd
trapped and terrified me, when I was too frightened to risk, or too like to be:
‘miscrable to think clearly. | extracted myself. by the energy that wells eExperiment and refine those strategies: .
‘from desperation, by a courage.and resourcefulness that still, today, ~. Part of the actual work has to include identifying the learned
surprises me.’ beliefs upon which we base our actions. Are some of our convictions
- Looking back, I can afford to believe now that changes not only about change actually myths and misunderstandings?
-are possible to make, but that they can be forged in the face of what - In their book: ‘‘I Can; 1 Can, If | Want To’’, Drs. A. Lazarus and.
looks to be the impossible. “A, Fay have. compiled: a: catalogue of 20: common psychological 5
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