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She’s just received a major national award, but there’s something
> much more important on Mary Manning’s mind: what if a child

; molester had AIDS?
That nightmare haunts Man-

ning. Adequate funding for par-
ents in crisis and scxually abused

children is far more important
- than her receipt of the Canadian
, Volunteer Award Certificate of

Merit, she says.

By VALORIE LENNOX

- Review Staff Writer
Manning: received the

“national award for her 12 ycars of

voluntcer effort as co-founder of

: the. province-wide Parents in Cri-

-Sis-and‘a founding member of the

‘Victoria Child Sexual Abuse

. Society.

» But she is much more con-

cerned about adequate govern-
:ment funding for programs to halt
_violence in familics, pointing out
‘most.of those who abuse or scx-

ually assault children were them-
sclves victims of abuse and sexual
assault.

‘‘This award is not a thing I
enjoy getting, I can tell you that. J
like staying out of the spotlight,”
she says. She thinks the award is
only. uscful. if it influences the
government to recognize. the
importance of working with fami-

‘lies in crisis.

“In B.C. if you’re a bridge ora
road or an Expo you’re fine, but

God help you if you're a people,”

Manning says.
She recalis.an hour-long mect-
ing with then. social services min-

ister Grace McCarthy during

which the minister seemed to
understand the. need to help

abused children. Two wecks later,

additional: cuts in social services
were announced.
Child abuse is one of the biggest

‘problems of this decade, Manning

© says. Often the. costs are hidden.

“"*People. who were abused as

children and who. grow -up. are.

. “badly. scarred all their lives unless .

~ they get: help.”’

Manning ‘says many. ‘men. ot

: “abused, as -children cnd- up ‘in.
“prison. But’ women, not well off
~ enough to hold cown jobs, bls UP.

on welfare. =
4 On.it: whey 1 ave ‘children, they
~ abuse. their-own youngsters... a
‘We’ ve: got to break this cycle,
‘which is so prevalent.”’

<The adults who were abused as

‘children have no proper. modcl of

how tobe a parent, limited trust

anda negative self-image. To .
survive, they often become mani-
pulative and “‘play games,’ ‘a
characteristic which carries over |
into adulthood.

“Everybody. they ever trusted
turned against. them,” Manning

‘explains,

She started Parents in Crisis 12.

“years ago to teach parenting and

diving skills to the adult victims’ of
‘child abuse.

“How. do you help ‘the kids:
without helping the adults?”’
’ From working with parc, she

am ;

Icarned many were sexually
abused as children, This led to the
formation of the: Victoria Child
Sexual Abuse Society cight years
ago. The group helps provide
counselling for sexually abused
youngsters to ensure they are not
permanently scarred by the abuse.

Sexual abuse is an exercise of
power and has little to do with sex,
Manning says.

‘Adults have a tremendous
amount of control over children.
They can scare the life out of
them.”’

‘The children’ who first opened
Mannings cycs to the problem of
child abuse were already dead.
Working as a biochemist at Tor-
onto’s Hospital for Sick Children,
she learned about child abuse
from the youngsters in ‘the post-
mortem room who had. died from
abuse or neglect. i

‘Tl had not thought much about

child abuse before that. I certainly:

didn’t think it was the problem it
has proved to be.’”’

When she retired to the Saanich
Peninsula in 1973, she decided to

chelp-and found only one small

committee working on the prob-

- Jem. More. help was.needed, she -
decided, and. co-founded Parents .
in Crisis, based on groups alrcady

active in the United States.
Her volunteer work over the
past dozen ycars has often taken

up morc hours than a full-time job, »
however. she cites tremendous

support for. the work, especially

from her church, “St. Stephens
~ Anglican.

“Tcouldn’t have done i it without
that support.”’

Parents in Crisis 1 ‘now has 33°

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branches throughout B.C. Most of
the work is done by volunteers.
The provincially funded organiza-
tion employs just one director, one
secretary and onc part-time direc-
tor.

Manning suggests working with
non-profit groups is an efficient
use of funds.

She would also like stiffer pen-
altics for child sexual abuse and
the cxisting penalties imple-
mented.

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says. . a

_ ‘‘Supposing one child molester
in Victoria turns out to have
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